Liz, the thoughtful writing in your personal essay put me shoulder to shoulder with you in this season of motherhood! Enjoy reading Savoring Each Season and happy I GET TO start my Friday cheering you all along the way!
Oh man did this one resonate with me, Liz! I too have a very *SpiRiTeD* son (almost 6, kindergarten) and have been called by the office several times. At the start of the year, I volunteered at his school and during class while I was there he completely spiraled, wanting to be near me, not following his teacher's instructions, making a mess. They had to call someone in to mitigate the situation and I was more or less escorted out. It was traumatic for us both, but I think it started us on the path of really understanding (or rather, trying to understand!) that tough me/not me dynamic: what we are and are not responsible for, what we project onto the situation and the behavior, what about their actions trigger us. I work really hard to stop myself from future-tripping (he's going to be an unkind, entitled asshole!! lol, what?!) and try to remember that he's learning and growing and like you said--we are good parents who care deeply, and that's enough on it's own. I really appreciated your honesty and thoughtfulness in this post. If you ever need to commiserate about another call home, I'm your gal!! ;)
Also: THE TELL!!! Omg. Devoured it. What an incredible story, and she's a great storyteller. I was so glad she got to her resolution, but it did break my heart a bit to know how many women are never able to do the same due to the lack of money, resources, and support that Amy had (the privilege was jarring at some points, and I'm glad she acknowledged it)--I hope someday our mental health care system will afford anyone wanting to unpack traumatic events the ability to do so. Would love to know more of your thoughts on the book!!
First off - your timing in perfect, just got off the phone with the school. Monday before noon...the week just started! But yes, all around, I totally agree with you. It's so hard, feels almost physically painful at times. I'm sorry you and your son had that rough experience. I've been there. Solidarity mama and let's keep the mutual reminders flowing! We are doing a good job! So are our boys!
Secondly - The Tell. Yes. So glad she found peace and resolution but oh, I must say... I'm dying to know who sent the postcard! I also listened to her interview on Oprah's podcast and it was a really nice way to hear her voice and wrap up my experience from the book - highly recommend. Have you read Chanel Millers' book Know My Name? The Tell reminds me of that and that one as well, absolutely amazing. One of the best books I've ever read.
Cheers to a new week and sending you strength and humor - I find that's the only way through ha :)
Liz, I know I sound like a broken record, but I don’t care! You’re a wonderful mom, and your boys are so lucky to have you in their corner, always rooting for them. XO
Liz, the thoughtful writing in your personal essay put me shoulder to shoulder with you in this season of motherhood! Enjoy reading Savoring Each Season and happy I GET TO start my Friday cheering you all along the way!
Thank you so very much! 🥰🥹
Thank you for sharing this and for being so vulnerable. I resonated with every word so I really appreciate your honesty :)
Thank YOU for this, for letting me know. It's so nice to know it's not just me :)
Oh man did this one resonate with me, Liz! I too have a very *SpiRiTeD* son (almost 6, kindergarten) and have been called by the office several times. At the start of the year, I volunteered at his school and during class while I was there he completely spiraled, wanting to be near me, not following his teacher's instructions, making a mess. They had to call someone in to mitigate the situation and I was more or less escorted out. It was traumatic for us both, but I think it started us on the path of really understanding (or rather, trying to understand!) that tough me/not me dynamic: what we are and are not responsible for, what we project onto the situation and the behavior, what about their actions trigger us. I work really hard to stop myself from future-tripping (he's going to be an unkind, entitled asshole!! lol, what?!) and try to remember that he's learning and growing and like you said--we are good parents who care deeply, and that's enough on it's own. I really appreciated your honesty and thoughtfulness in this post. If you ever need to commiserate about another call home, I'm your gal!! ;)
Also: THE TELL!!! Omg. Devoured it. What an incredible story, and she's a great storyteller. I was so glad she got to her resolution, but it did break my heart a bit to know how many women are never able to do the same due to the lack of money, resources, and support that Amy had (the privilege was jarring at some points, and I'm glad she acknowledged it)--I hope someday our mental health care system will afford anyone wanting to unpack traumatic events the ability to do so. Would love to know more of your thoughts on the book!!
Thank you for this amazing, thoughtful comment!
First off - your timing in perfect, just got off the phone with the school. Monday before noon...the week just started! But yes, all around, I totally agree with you. It's so hard, feels almost physically painful at times. I'm sorry you and your son had that rough experience. I've been there. Solidarity mama and let's keep the mutual reminders flowing! We are doing a good job! So are our boys!
Secondly - The Tell. Yes. So glad she found peace and resolution but oh, I must say... I'm dying to know who sent the postcard! I also listened to her interview on Oprah's podcast and it was a really nice way to hear her voice and wrap up my experience from the book - highly recommend. Have you read Chanel Millers' book Know My Name? The Tell reminds me of that and that one as well, absolutely amazing. One of the best books I've ever read.
Cheers to a new week and sending you strength and humor - I find that's the only way through ha :)
Liz, I know I sound like a broken record, but I don’t care! You’re a wonderful mom, and your boys are so lucky to have you in their corner, always rooting for them. XO